Does Your Love Language Influence Your Valentine’s Day Expectations?

Do our Valentine’s Day expectations fall in line line with our love language, or do they have more to do with the seriousness of our relationship and how long we’ve been in that relationship?

To help with finding the answer to my initial question,  I gathered the opinions of seven individuals from different backgrounds and lifestyles, and these were the results.

Acts of Service –The 5 Love Languages describes this love language as doing anything you can do to ease the burden of responsibilities

My husband I have been married for a decade (that sounds like a long time) and as I think back through the years, my idea of the perfect Valentine’s Day gift has changed on a pretty steady rate. My love language is acts of service, so on the occasions that I ask for gifts I’m specific about what I want. I don’t put a lot of pressure on my husband on Valentine’s Day, cause I’m a Daddy’s Girl. I like for my husband to be our girls’ Valentine, because I expect to be my dad’s.

Words of Affirmation –The 5 Love Languages describes this love language as Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like.

#1 Interviewee  -this male lover of affirmations has been married for a little over ten years, and even though on a normal basis Valentine gifts aren’t really a big deal for him, there are situationally motivated one-offs that prompt him to ask for something specific, yet simple. He usually buys practical, useful gifts.

#2 Interviewee -my second interviewee likes to be affirmed as well. This single male explained that gifts aren’t really a big deal, he’s always associated Valentine’s Day as a day for women. However, he pays attention to what his lady talks about and usually buys gifts that knock it out of park.

Quality Time –The 5 Love Languages describes this love language as giving your spouse undivided attention. Talking and listening.

#3 Interviewee -Married for three years, this male interviewee likes undivided attention. He’s not particular about the gifts he receives, and  feels that it’s the thought that counts. He appreciates whatever he’s given. He loves to plan romantic date nights for him and his boo.

#4 Interviewee -Valentine’s Day is still a really big deal for this recently engaged bride-to-be. Since her love language is quality time, she totally expects something romantic that’s geared for couples. Gifts aren’t necessary for her when time can be spent and memories can be made.

#5 Interviewee-Eight years of marriage and two children later, this working mom looks forward to a nice evening of quiet time with her man. Even though she loves quality time, on Valentine’s Day she is always over the moon to receive Valentine candy.

Gifts –The 5 Love Languages describes this love language as a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”

#6 Interviewee -After twenty-two years of marriage, all she wants is for her husband to buy something that costs more then “$199.99”. She explained that yes, she does like receiving gifts, but around the fifteenth year, she longed for something that wasn’t purchased from a cheesy valentine day jewelry commercial.

#7 Interviewee -With a little more than two years of marriage under her belt, this interviewee said, and I quote. “He better give me something, and I’m not talking about one long-stemmed rose either.”

Both of the ladies explained that when it comes to flowers, yes they are nice, but there is no need to spend an excessive amount of money on them. They’d much rather prefer a more bang for your buck bouquet. After all, flowers die after a week.


Physical Touch –The 5 Love Languages includes holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.

No one fell into this category, or maybe they were just too shy to share.

What is your love language and how do it correlate to your expectations on Valentine’s Day? Please share in the comments section.

DALLAS CEO, STEPHANIE JOHNSON, FEATURED ON LIFETIME TELEVISION’S NEWEST REALITY SHOW!

Nothing tests a budding relationship like travel, and the new series Love at First Flight takes it a step further, matching new couples to embark on a romantic (and stressful) journey across North America — with the chance to get married at the airport immediately after their final flight lands.

Meeting for the first time in New York, the couples criss-cross the country towards Los Angeles, as their compatibility is tested not only by the unpredictable pressures of travel, but also by a series of uniquely crafted travel-based challenges. Tune in fo the premiere of Love at First Flight, Tuesday, March 20, 2018 at 10pm ET/PT on Lifetime!

Love At First Flight Season 1 Preview

ABOUT STEPHANIE JOHNSON

Stephanie Johnson is the Founder and CEO of Dallas’ Singles & The City – an exclusive member based community for single professionals willing to become the person they seek to attract.

“At Singles & The City, our main tagline is, ‘There is more to being single than dating.’ We are a self empowerment community for single dating professionals mid-twenties to forties. We are a totally different spin off of what the entire world is doing right now.

Everyone is dating, and what not —hooking up. I’m trying to help you get to your bottom line. I partner with a lot of therapists, group counselors; people that can really help you change your mindset and how you see yourself, and why you’re single. And if you don’t want to be single, what are the things that make you unattractive,” Stephanie explains.

After a corporate layoff in 2015 – Stephanie took her then passion of hosting events and turned it into profit, having expanded her company to 5 cities in less than 4 years. Singles & The City has active chapters and hosts’ monthly events in Dallas, Austin, Chicago, Los Angeles, and Detroit.

Although watching her from afar looks seamless, she’s the first to be transparent about being a full-time Entrepreneur. Stephanie nearly lost everything in 2016 – sleeping on friend’s sofas and Lyfting to her own events.

“I was in East Lansing and moved here [to Dallas] in 2010. I worked in corporate,  in the restaurant industry. I did telemarketing and I loved my job. I also did concierge work, and then did restaurant work again, but prior to my lay-off I’d started Single & The City like a yeary prior —just as a volunteer, community type thing,” she says.

“I fully did not expect all that happened to happen. And when I got laid off I started going through my savings and everything just kind of hit the fan and that’s how the whole homeless thing started, and that’s when I was like, ‘Ok, it’s time to turn this into an actual company and get some income coming in, so I just kind-of need to bite the bullet and become a professional business owner.’ And that’s how it happened.”

Despite the loss, she managed to open 2 new chapters in Los Angeles and Chicago. When asked about how she determines which cities are picked to hosts Single & The City she explains, “I go where the demand is.”

LOVE AT FIRST FLIGHT

Filming Love At First Flight was an amazing experience and Stephanie is very excited to share her life with the viewers.

What compelled you to tryout for the cast of Love at First Flight?

“Honestly, I was getting a lot of feedback from my members, like, ‘oh my gosh, I met this guy, or this girl, and we’re getting married next week.’ and I’ve been to several weddings already that happened like within six weeks from Singles & The City, and I was like, ‘Am I missing something? What’s going on?’ So, the opportunity came up for the show and, of course, no one ever thinks you’re going to make the cast. So, it was about me getting into the brains of singles I talk to all the time that this has happened to, and then to have the opportunity to be matched by a “professional matchmaker” and possibly meeting the person of your dreams. I was like, ‘at least let me just try.”

Are you a hopeless romantic?

“I actually am a hopeless romantic. I’m always like, ‘maybe he’ll be at Barnes and Noble, or maybe I’ll run into him at Whole Foods —that would be great!”

What were your thoughts when you initially arrived to meet your partner?


“Oh my gosh, initial thoughts —I don’t want to tell you too much, but I was really really excited! I was excited about his ethnicity. He’s very attractive, so I thought, ‘ok! This is going to be good!’ I wanted to at least walk away with a new friend. My expectations were not high. I was not trying to fall in love. I’m like, ‘I’m going to into this with no fear. If I’m traveling, [then] I’m at least going to make a new friend.”

 
What was your biggest challenge during this experience?

“The biggest challenge during the experience —I would definitely say was just being alone in certain situations and then it being Reality TV on top of that. I’m a very structured person, so to wake up everyday and not know what your day holds. And then you’re going to see me do some stuff that you would never see me do in real life, activity wise. You’ve got kind-of like Amazing Race meets The Bachelor meets —I mean the show is just crazy awesome! But, there are so many different activities that you have to do with your partner. You have to trust them to get it done so,  for me, not being in control was like, ‘Oh My God— I’m [gonn]a do this today!”

What did you learn about yourself during this experience?


“I learned that I’m a lot more open than I thought and I shocked myself at how open I was, at love, and at trusting other people, and at, just kind-of, not being in control.  So, I was like, ‘look at me, growing!’ It was great! I’m much more self aware —it was just a beautiful process.”

How much can you really learn about a person on a travel adventure?

“That’s a good question, but I think the entire point was learning [that] for one, you can learn so much about someone when you’re back to back all the time. And then I would say that after 3 or 4 days of seeing someone 24 hours a day it’s like, ‘ok, I don’t have time to keep wearing makeup.’ You know what I’m saying —at some point you start to let your guard down and really be your true-true self and I think that the situation is what possibly made that happen a little faster. It’s like, ‘ok, today, you’re not getting lashes or heels. I just don’t care and I saw you yesterday, and I know you’re not going anywhere.’ So I mean, honestly, I learned a lot. I learned a lot really fast and it was good. It’s just an interesting way to date, you know —real interesting.”

Do You Believe That Is Possible To Find True Love At First Flight?

“I do believe it’s possible to find Love At First Flight, absolutely! Absolutely —I think you guys are going to love me and my partner and, you’ll be real excited to see the outcome for sure!

Tune in and find out how this local entrepreneur made the best out of uncertain situations and maybe even found the love of her life…all while traveling North America with a stranger.

Love at First Flight is produced by Pilgrim Media Group. Craig Pilgrim and Mike Nichols serve as executive producers for Pilgrim. Gena McCarthy executive produces for Lifetime. Pictures and video clips curtesy of Lifetime.

Love at First Flight Premieres March 20 at 10pm ET/PT on Lifetime. 

Follow Stephanie as she will be LIVE Tweeting during the premier on Twitter and be sure to LIKE her FACEBOOK Fan Page too! 

Pictures and video clips curtesy of Lifetime.

Séxūal By Michel Germain

Séxūal by Michel Germain was founded on love and is a romantic fragrance, frequently referred to as, “A love note in a bottle.”

Michel Germain

Michel Germain, a French-Canadian Perfumer for more than 25 years, known for his prestigious fragrances. Germain credits the sustainability of his brand to creating a storyline that stands out and does something that no one has ever done. When shopping for a fragrance you want compliments. Michel Germain Parfums wants you to get noticed and asked what you’re wearing!

The Pop-up

I had the pleasure of co-hosting the Séxūal by Michel Germain Pop-up at Macy’s in NorthPark Center Mall in Dallas, Texas on October 21st.

Attendees enjoyed treats, and detailed information about the brand  and the Séxūal line by a Michel Germain Account Executive.

Séxūal

“I haven’t found a fragrance that makes me feel confident. I haven’t found a fragrance that lasts and I haven’t found a fragrance that makes me feel like i’m the only women in the world.” -Norma germain

Inspired by a comment from his wife, Norma, Séxūal by Michel Germain features eight fragrances in total. Four Women’s fragrances: Tendre, Paris, Sugar and Noir. And four for Men’s fragrances:Tendre Pour Homme, Paris Pour Homme, Pour Homme and Noir Pour Homme.

But what goes into making a fragrance that makes a women feel like the only women in the world? This sent Germain on a five year quest through France, Africa and the North East for the perfect notes needed to create a fragrance that would do all those things. Ultimately creating Séxūal, a fragrance that exudes romance. MG Account Exec explains that, “In all Séxūal fragrances there is a hidden note, an aphrodisiac. It invites closeness. It invites romance, hugs, and kisses guaranteed. That is what makes this frangrance so unique. They are also oil based, the natural oils blend with your body chemistry and creates your own signature fragrance.

So what happens when you wear the Séxūal? It’s not, ‘oh, you’re wearing this, or are you wearing that? The question becomes, ‘oh my goodness miss! What is that that you’re wearing?’ They can’t identify the scent, because you’ve just created your own signature fragrance through the natural oils, through the aphrodisiacs. That’s why you want to own Séxūal!”

Event Photo Credit: Alfena Williams

Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number!

I’m a few years away from being forty, a mom of two, and my husband and I are eight months away from our tenth wedding anniversary. I think it’s safe to say that I’m seasoned with noteworthy life experiences, and for the most part, I’ve settled into who I am confidently. But that doesn’t mean that I’m unwilling, too old or too set in my ways to embrace change (or a little fun).

We planned a five day getaway to Grand Bahama Island, Freeport, Bahamas with my brother, his girlfriend, and my cousin and his wife. My anticipation for the trip grew daily in the months leading up  to the trip. Between feeling my way through this new blogger-life and work-life balance stress, I NEEDED THIS TRIP!

We aren’t new to traveling. My husband and I travel with groups of friends regularly, and it’s always a good time. This trip was a little different because I was traveling with my brother (his girlfriend) and male cousin (and his wife), and both couples are a decade younger than us! Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m a damn good time. But, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I was concerned about how things would play out being a generation older than the other couples. We automatically claimed our roles as the elders of the group, along with a list of things that “we” do  (or don’t do) while on vacation. You know, in true old people fashion.

Y’all, this was the best destination vacation trip I’ve been on to-date! The island was crazy, sexy, cool. The people where friendly and welcoming. Our travel group was lit! And I learned three valuable lessons from this trip!

Always, always, always be that girl!

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I’m mindful about keeping it sexy and spicy at home, but when it comes to vacation all I want to do is relax! I pack books and loungewear for all vacations. The girls reminded me that even while relaxing, I should to be sexy and spicy for my man. A vacation without the children is the perfect scenario for taking a few additional minutes to oil up from head to toe, throw on a face and prance around scantily clad all day and into the night.

Don’t put so much focus on age appropriateness (especially while on vacation) and relaxation that you miss the opportunity to be reminded of the girl you were when you were younger, and playful undivided attention from your man.

Seek out the fun you want to have and make it happen!

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We wanted to experience night life on the island. We asked around, googled a few spots, then called a taxi! While out, we twerked, drank more drinks and took more shots than we should have, and did a damn good job of being hype-men for whomever we pleased. With  five days blocked out, there was plenty of time for sleeping in and nap time.

Let your hair down, order the extra drink, take the shot and dance like nobody is looking! What happens on vacation stays there…well kind of, social media has blurred those lines a little. But, there is no crime in wilding out every once in a while.

Expect the unexpected (and still have fun)!

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When we finally arrived to our destination, all I wanted to do was freshen up and lay down for hot second, but, of course, our room wasn’t ready. Then, a few days into the trip, someone came down with a stomach virus. Inconvenient? Yes, but we didn’t allow those moments to ruin the entire trip.

Hurry up and wait is definitely a thing during travel. Flight delays, long lines, getting sick, and hotel rooms not being available until check-in are inevitable, so make the best of it. In most cases, your significant other is the only person you might inconvenience on a trip. The rest of the group will find their way and make the best of the situation. Yes, everyone will wish you well with hopes of you getting well or ready soon, but the show will go on. When things are more under control or you start feeling better,  hop on the party train and enjoy your time.

 

Best Friend

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Photo by Le_Choyce Photography

I’m no expert,  I can’t sprawl off what percentage of people settle into adulthood in their mid-thirties. But, I do find myself settling into adulthood now,  in my mid-thirties. The journey hasn’t been pleasant or comfortable for me the entire time, but I’ve learned so much about myself.  I knew that I’d settled into adulthood when I was able to appreciate myself as a whole. That means that I’ve come to a place in life where I can embrace my flaws,  weaknesses and strengths, and not feel as though I  to have to prove anything other than those personal truths as facts for ME.

While it’s easy to look at others and pick apart their situation,  it’s not easy to look within and pick yourself apart. I owe my ability to do that to my best friend (BFB). My BFB is an intelligent person, quick witted, physically and mentally strong, self aware, humorous, and gentle. BFB is dependable and trustworthy as well.

I have to be honest and say that it took some time for BFB and myself to finally make it click, over time we have and I’m happy for that. I learned a lot about myself in the midst of learning BFB. I’ve lost the need to feel in control of BFB’s emotions, reactions, and perspective on things, taken a step back and allow BFB to just be. Stepping back is easy, but it took time to (and I can admit that at times I still struggle with) not forcing my expectations on BFB.

It’s ok for us to be different, it’s great that our differences compliment each other so well.

And, as much as I hate to admit it, I’ve turned into “THAT WOMEN” the one who is completely content socializing, traveling, or just everyday being with BFB. I have been known to refer to BFB as my own personal personal person. (I mean, how more grand can life be….a personal person, come on!!)
Yes, I’m talking about my homie, my love, lover, ace, friend, my best friend, my HUSBAND!

In my defense, I’m not attached at the hip with BFB, we both enjoy life as the individuals we are. But like the song says “I’m a movement by myself. But, I’m a force when we’re together.” 😆 Married life, it’s the best thing since fried chicken. (For me)

I don’t say all this with the intent of painting the perfect lil blue sky, sunny day, never a cloudy day picture. There are definitely daily annoyances that occur (in any relationship between 2 or more people living together) in our marriage. We pick our battles. I mean -is him putting the spoon for the maccaroni and cheese in the green beans REALLY worth it? On the occasion that I’m just in a “not up for it today” mood, I try to bring it up in as a joking a way as I can. 😇

Marriage is something that has to be worked at on a daily basis. It takes time and effort from both parties to learn how to live in a cohesive and loving environment. Once you figure it out, life gets good!

I may not have a long list of girlfriends to call on, like back in High School. But, I have a guy who is my shoulder to lean and cry on, my personal comedian, chef, driver, travel planner, lover, companion, praying partner and most of all, he’s my best friend!

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