Show Me How You Rock It 1.1 – Little Black Dress

Some of us love fashion, others not so much. Whether you love it or not, we all have a sense of style, so why not own it -wholeheartedly, flaunt and share it with the world?  Show Me How You Rock It is my fashion segment within the blog, and I want to hear from YOU! How do YOU rock YOUR STYLE? The terms are simple…just be YOU. Don’t over think it, Just show me how YOU rock it!

Little black dresses are never out of season or out of style. The second installment in this series is   a glammed up little black dress look.

show me how you rock your little black dress Ms. alfena @a.norell_mua from Dallas, Tx!

Share a little about your personality and over all Style.
I am a laid back type of girl that really enjoys hanging out with family and friends. I love celebrating the success of my peers and I’m very nurturing. My style is somewhere between classic, relaxed and expressive. I really enjoy being comfortable and cute but I also like to play around with prints and colors as well. When it comes to attending events I always resort to a classic style. I like to switch it up from time to time and keep it fun.
What inspires you about this (lil black dress) look?
This look is inspired by my love for holiday looks. I like sequin and I think it adds just enough flare to spruce up a look for any occasion. Whether it be for date night or a company party.
How do you feel when you’re rocking this (lil black dress) look?

I feel confident and sexy when I’m rocking this dress.
To be featured?
1. Pick a look: little black dress, date night, brunch, GNO, Bad & Bougie, etc.
2. Answer the following questions:
Share a little about your personality and overall personal style.
What inspired you about this look?
How do you feel when you rock this look?
3. Select 4 to 6 pics ( mix landscape and portrait). Include a headshot (cause we want to see that beat too) and of course full-body.
4. Send to cormeshia@shebatty.com with the title SHOW ME HOW YOU ROCK IS SUBMISSION -YOUR NAME

Valentine’s Day Slay – From Office To After-Five

Dallas MUA A. Norell created a Valentine’s Day look that’s sexy, time efficient and will carry you from day to night. The look was completed four different ways with modern, yet classic fashion from Ivywood Lane Boutique.

“With this look I wanted to do something simple with a pop of color. Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday and women might not have a lot of time to do their makeup. This is a look that can be done in 30 mins or less,” A. Norrell.

Before & After

What did you use to achieve the look?

Foundation:Mehron Celebre Pro HD cream in MD 4, Contour: MAC NW 50, Concealer: LA Girl pro concealer in Cool Tan, Setting powder: AJ Crimson Bamboo, Face powder: MAC NW 45,
Eyebrows: Dollar General eyebrow kit, Contour: Covergirl Queen Ebony Bronzer, Blush: no name palette color pink, Highlighter: MAC (discontinued),Eyeshadow: Morphe palettes Second Nature 3502 and 35R Ready, Set, Gold. Liquid Eyeliner: Maybelline Line Stiletto Ultimate (black), Mascara: Maybelline Stiletto Lash (black), Lashes: Ardell Demi Wispies, Lips: MAC Chestnut lip liner and Ruby Woo lipstick

Where can This look be worn?

This look can be worn anywhere. It’s natural enough for the work place but just enough drama for date night with that special someone. I’d suggest a nude shade or soft pink lipstick for day time and transition to a bold red lip for night.

 Ivywood Lane Boutique

These Pop of Polka black and white polka dot hight waisted pants are a fun selection for the day of love. The red jacket and red lips provide a perfect pop of color.

Polished and ready for business. This look pairs the Modest but Arrogant pop over Jumpsuit with the sexy Floral Kimono Blazer.

This all black Modest but Arrogant strapless pop over jumpsuit will lay the foundation of any look. Dress it up or down with accessories, a jacket, shawl or shoes.

After five and all the way live! Paint the town red in this sexy, fun and flirty Shaggy Fringe Cardigan.

For bookings email A. Norell at A.NorellMua@gmail.com

Model: Andrea Jackson

Fashion: Ivywood LanePictures curtesy of A. Norell.

Makeup and Beyond -A Chat With Celebrity MUA Frederick ‘Fred4Face’ Saunders

“I love every aspect of being a makeup artist, even the clients with bad attitudes. There is nothing that I would rather do. I feel like I wake up and breath makeup.” -Frederick Sanders

@Fred4Face

There aren’t many people who can honestly say, “I love what I do,” but there are a few and celebrity MUA, Frederick Sanders is one of them. His looks have graced red carpets, album and magazine covers, and been seen center stage on host of celebrities; Regina Hall, Shirley Cesar, MC Lyte, The Clark Sisters, Robyn Dixon, Avery Sunshine and Tamela Mann to name a few and is known for his “anointed hands.” I caught up and spoke to Sanders about who he is on a personal level, his career as a makeup artist  and what the future holds for “Fred4Face“.

Photo Gallery Credit: @Fred4Face

PC: @shebatty

On a typically warm, fall night in Dallas at the swanky Design District apartment skyrise clubhouse amoungst outstanding views while enjoying the sounds of DJ Luqwon, I had the pleasure of watching Saunders work his magic on “The Chain Breaker” herself, Speaker, Author and Philanthropist, Dr. Catrina Pullum.

“I’m the guy that’s behind the scenes. People know my work and name, but not necessarily my face,” he explains as he enters the clubhouse modestly, charmed and flattered that the Concierge recognized him on sight and greeted him with excitement. Seems like he’d  set up and was ready to roll by the time he finished that sentence.

SheBatty: I read that you were preparing for law school and walked into MAC and got hired on the spot.

Fred Saunders: “This is true, this is true.”

So have you always been artistic or were you practicing makeup at that time, or do you just have it?

“I’d like to think that I just have it. However, I did grow up being the only boy in a house full of sisters. So I think it just kind of fell on me -I inherited it, if you will, I was the youngest and the only boy. Seeing my great-grandmother, my grandmother, my mother and all of my sisters, you know, it kind of helped along. But I’d never had any desires to be a makeup artist.

I was always artistic. Years ago, as a child, I thought I wanted to be a fashion designer. I would draw clothes and -you know, really try to sketch things out, then I moved to being a cartoonist. So, I feel like -I’d like to say I did have the artistic side, I just never knew that I would develop it as a makeup artist.”

Those things sound so far from lawyer, but I guess we’re all multi-faceted. Did you know that makeup was your calling upon being hired at MAC?

“It was after, at that moment it was just a summer job for me. I was a school teacher, so my summers were free and I wanted to do something fun that I could do and not have to think about, and I gathered that it would just be something fun -you know, something I would just kind of learn and leave behind or maybe something I could do on the side. I never envisioned being a full fledged artist.”

Now that you are an artist, what do you love about it?

“I love every aspect of being a makeup artist, even the clients with bad attitudes — there is nothing that I would rather do. I feel like I wake up and breath makeup.”

PC: @Fred4Face

 What’s your favorite bold looks that you’ve created or the most fun?

“The most fun bold look….that would have to be on one of my clients    who was very conservative, she did not really allow me to step out of the  box, but I just kind of like –really, just kind of did my own thing one day.  And it ended up being a cover shoot for a CD. And the CD picture went  viral.”

PC: @Fred4Face

You are great at creating classic red carpet looks. Do you like to step outside of that and do bold looks?

“Absolutely! I’ve done everything from fashion makeup, to red carpet beauty makeup, to body painting to face painting for halloween. I’ve even gone as far as to do female impersonators, so it’s really like a big circle.”

You just told me that you had a client who was conservative, and you had a little fun and it worked. Do you often do that -play up looks and have fun?

PC: @shebatty

I often do what I want -to be honest. And I hope none of my clients see this. I let them tell me what they believe they want, and I take their idea and make it my own. So, if somebody tells me, ‘I just want like, six colors on my eye.’ And I know that you’re not patient enough for me to put six colors on your eye and blend them down, then what I’ll do is i’ll do a simulation of what you want. And you might believe that you have six colors, but at the end of the day it may only be two. And that’s just real, because a lot of times I feel like most clients sit in the chair and tell you what they think they want, but then when they actually figure out what they really want, they’re like, ‘Oh, that’s not what I wanted.’ So to save myself some time, and save them a headache -you know, let me just combine the two.”

What’s your go to brand?

“My go to brand is actually Temptu, believe it or not. I do have a lot of things that I use. I can’t say that I use a certain foundation or a certain concealer, because I generally just use whatever I can find a good match with for color and whatever just works in my bag.”

What’s your go to budget brand?

“My go to budget brand…I’m actually enjoying, believe it or not, Kiss Cosmetics Professional and you can find that in the beauty supply store. They have some great longwear lipsticks and they have some great brow pencils -I’m actually using a brow pencil right now by Kiss Cosmetics.”

What’s the one product that we can always find in your bag?

“One product that you can always find in my bag, is my Temptu Airbrush Machine. That is my must-have. I travel with it everywhere I go. I find that when I’m working with gentlemen, they prefer the airbrush, because it doesn’t give you that makeupy [sic] look. But it’s still nice and natural enough that they can walk outside and nobody would be like ‘Oh my gosh, are you wearing makeup?’ so, that’s my must have.”

PC: @shebatty

What advice would you give aspiring MUAs?

“Be able to listen, be able to learn and never stop learning. Even at my age now and the number of years I have under my belt as a makeup artist, I’m still open to learning new things. So, always be open to learning new things.”

How do you feel social media has affected the industry?

“Social Media has definitely impacted the industry in so many different ways. I think it’s more so negatively, because there are so many people who feel like because they have two brushes and a pencil, they can say, “I”m a makeup artist” because they know how to draw their brows on. However, not necessarily knowing the art behind it, where you actually have to put in some work and understand, like other peoples skin types and other peoples structures and things of that nature.”

fred beyond the makeup

PC: @Fred4Face

Who are you beyond the makeup?

“Beyond the makeup….I am a mentor, I am a father, I am a friend, I’m a brother. I’m a Dillard [University] grad -hello!  I speak three languages: Spanish, French and German. I was a foreign language major in college most people don’t know that about me and that’s pretty much a fun fact.”

What are your plans for 2018?

“I’m taking bigger faith walks. I’m actually stepping out of my box and trying to do something on a bigger level. Somethings that I never thought that I would even dream of accomplishing. Stepping out on the waters a little bit.

Always be on the lookout for me. Cause if you sleep on me you’re gonna look up and be like ‘Oh, he’s up there!”

Visit Fred4Face for booking information and to see more Sanders work.

Meet Tashara ‘TJ’ Robinson, POWER MOM!

After more than a decade of “living the dream”, Dallas native, stay-a-home mother of four and wife, TaShara ‘TJ’ Robinson found herself in an unfamiliar space.

“To make a long story short, I ended up filing for divorce after 19 years of marriage,” she says the discussion about her contribution to the newly released POWER Moms book begins.

Who signed up for this

“I met my husband at Texas A&M University and we dated for a few years. Got married, and I decided to be a stay-at-home mom -we had already had the conversation and decided that if we had kids, I’d stay home and raise the kids, and at the time I felt like that was the best decision for me. I wanted to just, you know, be a mom -be a good mom, and I wanted to be a good wife as well. And you know, even as noble as that desire sounded, I found that I still had to deal with real life and a real marriage,” she says.

steps to overcoming

It’s easy to feel alone when faced with adversity, but Robinson explains that, “I find that I have an -unfortunately, it’s not an uncommon story. So, I am encouraging people who have experienced any type of loss. My loss, in particular, was a divorce. So I’m just sharing all the wisdom I have learned,” she says.

”There was a lot of journaling where I was processing a lot of decisions that I knew I would have to make. The journaling, for me, is what helped me come to that decision and even after the divorce, there was still a lot of adjustment with my children and family and friends and -wow, I felt like I just had get it out,” she says.

Through the POWER Moms book, Robinson provides a glimpse into what she had to overcome and shows that, “Hey, everything can look good, but yet there are still some difficulties,” she says.

judging a book by its cover

“The years leading up to that divorce, and, even now it’s been two and a half years, I’ve had a lot of introspection time where I actually had to decide for myself how I wanted my life to go and run and operate,” she says.

She recalls being compared to the Obamas from those on the outside looking in and says, “I thought to myself that they [the Obamas] would be mad with y’all comparing us to them! No, ma’am!” Because everything and everyone who looks good on paper is good, right?

“To be clear, the 19 years weren’t all bad. We have four beautiful children who are emotionally healthy and physically healthy that I’m extremely proud of,” she says.

in the end, it’s a win

Be assured that her story does not end there. The best part of Overcoming obstacles and adversity is most definitely the Win!  In reflection of the journey, and while working on POWER Moms, Robinson came to realizations and discovered Empowering things about herself.

“Obstacles act as an astringent, they bring things out of you. I realized that I operated in a lot of fear. I was afraid…of a lot of things. Like, I’ve been married for 19 years and I haven’t worked in so long. How am I going to make it? I have four kids! How am I going to do that? Can I do this? I don’t  know! So, the fear and the self-doubt I dealt with, but what I also found me,” she says.

“Like, ‘Ok, you might be scared, but we g’on [sic] figure it out!’ That’s what this drew out of me so, I’m not afraid to move past that fear anymore. That’s where I am right now and that’s what that obstacle drew out of me,” she says.

The P.O.W.E.R Moms book  is a compilation of stories of by 12 mothers who exemplify P.O.W.E.R., an acronym for Persevere Overcome Win Empower and Restore. Read more of Tashara’s story, and for book signings, additional POWER Mom events and to purchase your copy, visit www.powermombook.com/t-robinson

Contact www.phenixx.com to book POWER Mom Co-Author Tashara Robinson.

To learn more about Tashara (TJ) Robinson and any upcoming projects visit www.tasharatjrobinson.com.

All photos provided curtesy of Tashara Robinson and Powermomsbook.com

Séxūal By Michel Germain

Séxūal by Michel Germain was founded on love and is a romantic fragrance, frequently referred to as, “A love note in a bottle.”

Michel Germain

Michel Germain, a French-Canadian Perfumer for more than 25 years, known for his prestigious fragrances. Germain credits the sustainability of his brand to creating a storyline that stands out and does something that no one has ever done. When shopping for a fragrance you want compliments. Michel Germain Parfums wants you to get noticed and asked what you’re wearing!

The Pop-up

I had the pleasure of co-hosting the Séxūal by Michel Germain Pop-up at Macy’s in NorthPark Center Mall in Dallas, Texas on October 21st.

Attendees enjoyed treats, and detailed information about the brand  and the Séxūal line by a Michel Germain Account Executive.

Séxūal

“I haven’t found a fragrance that makes me feel confident. I haven’t found a fragrance that lasts and I haven’t found a fragrance that makes me feel like i’m the only women in the world.” -Norma germain

Inspired by a comment from his wife, Norma, Séxūal by Michel Germain features eight fragrances in total. Four Women’s fragrances: Tendre, Paris, Sugar and Noir. And four for Men’s fragrances:Tendre Pour Homme, Paris Pour Homme, Pour Homme and Noir Pour Homme.

But what goes into making a fragrance that makes a women feel like the only women in the world? This sent Germain on a five year quest through France, Africa and the North East for the perfect notes needed to create a fragrance that would do all those things. Ultimately creating Séxūal, a fragrance that exudes romance. MG Account Exec explains that, “In all Séxūal fragrances there is a hidden note, an aphrodisiac. It invites closeness. It invites romance, hugs, and kisses guaranteed. That is what makes this frangrance so unique. They are also oil based, the natural oils blend with your body chemistry and creates your own signature fragrance.

So what happens when you wear the Séxūal? It’s not, ‘oh, you’re wearing this, or are you wearing that? The question becomes, ‘oh my goodness miss! What is that that you’re wearing?’ They can’t identify the scent, because you’ve just created your own signature fragrance through the natural oils, through the aphrodisiacs. That’s why you want to own Séxūal!”

Event Photo Credit: Alfena Williams

More Locs!

General Loc Maintenance

Wearing locs is great, and one of the best things about wearing them is low maintenance! When I say low maintenance, I mean almost no maintenance. I get my roots interlocked (retightened) every six weeks, and try to wash my hair every ten to fifteen days. I may miss a wash day here and there, but I ensure to have my retightening done on a regular basis. Another low maintenance perk is product usage.  Locs can be maintained with shampoo, water and oil  90% of the time.

Mature, Color Treated Loc Maintenance

I suffered a devastating experience with breakage (due to low iron) in 2015 when I colored my hair just before discovering I was pregnant with my second child. I haven’t given up on color, but I have started to include products to help strengthen and maintain moisture in my locs.

So far, all of the products that I’ve used have been for loose natural hair. Both of my daughters have loose natural hair, so their haircare products are easily acessible. And while locs are a form of natural hair, they aren’t loose strands of hair, and mine are colored treated, so there are some products that can work for me and others that simply won’t.

Even though I’ve branched out and added some additional products to my routine, my scalp still felt dry and itchy, and my locs still looked dry and frizzy.

More Life with More Locs

I finally got my hand on a brand that I’ve had my eye on for a while, MORE LOCS! The first things that I immediately noticed about my hair was the SHINE! After using the product for about a week -OMG! Like, for real!

More Loc debuted earlier this year (2017), the line features over ten products made to give your locs More moisture, More shine, More growth! Because one of my biggest scalp and hair issues is dryness, I selected two items to help me with that.

scalp nourish

PC: @ishagainesphoto

The Scalp Nourish oil feels like heaven on my scalp! I like that it’s not as thick and heavy as some other oils that I’ve used in the past. It’s easy to distribute, it absorbs into my scalp and locs, and it smells like tropical heaven!

white tea moisture mist

PC: @ishagainesphoto

I use the White Tea Moisture Mist daily. It adds moisture to my locs that I can see, and feel when I touch my hair. My locs feel less brittle and the added moisture brought more life into the color of my locs.

The products didn’t just sit on top of my hair nor did it absorb into non-existence like I’d never used it. My scalp and locs feel nourished and moisturized. Not only does my hair and scalp look better, the added moisture has also helped eliminate some of the frizziness I was experiencing with my locs.

More Locs offers products ranging from cleansers to oils and serums. Find out more about More Locs on Instagram at  @More_locs.  Next on my list of things to try from More Locs is the Herbal Cleanse (shampoo) and Loc Silk (conditioner). Have you experienced More Locs? Tell me your favorite product within the line and why you love it!

3 Things I Love About NYX Cosmetics

NYX Cosmetics has rose in the ranks of beauty brands in this multi-million dollar cosmetic industry. The brand that was once notoriously known as a beauty supply brand can still be found in those places, but you can also find it in drugstores, big box stores, specialty stores and malls worldwide. I attended the recent opening of NYX Cosmetics store in Dallas’  NorthPark Center Mall. Being inside that store is like being in candy land, the options are limitless! NYX cosmetics offers a wide range of products used by pros, novice and everyday girls worldwide.  Find out my three favorite things about NYX Cosmetics below.

It’s Affordable!

You can complete a full (glam) face using NYX products for just over $100. Let me say again; complete a full (glam) face for just over $100! This brand is perfect for moms with teenagers, teenagers, young adults, professionals, beginner makeup enthusiasts, and those who like to get the best bang for their buck. I completed this look using the products listed below.

Total Control Drop Foundation $14.00

#No Filter Blurring Primer $15.00

Gotcha Covered Conealer $6.00

Cheek Contour Duo Palette $6.30

Duo Chromatic Illuminating Powder $8.00

3-in-1 Brow Pencil $13.00

Ultimate Multi-finish Shadow Palette $18.00

Cosmic Metals $7.50

Soft Matte Cream Lip $6.50

Double Stacked Mascara $15.00

Total $109.30

It’s Functional

I can confidently put on  NYX products in the morning with a full day planned,  knowing my makeup will still look decent a the end of the day.  The look shown above lasted for more than six hours of wear.  One of my favorite products that NYX has out right now is the Duo Chromatic Illuminating Powder. Girl! That powder shines so bright, you could send light signals off your cheek reflections! Synthetica is a must have!

It’s for Everyone!

Whatever look you’re going for, NYX has you covered. Their lippies and eye shadows range in colors that are  a theater majors dream! Create looks from no makeup makeup to fantasy with these vibrant, metallic, futuristic, goth, whimsical, corporate, professional, fun, neutral, and nude shade options. See me below in Out O This World Metal Lip Cream .

NYX Cosmetics is a brand that’s able to tickle the tastebuds of just about all personalities, it’s  easily accessible, and I simply cannot mention enough how affordable this brand is.

What NYX products do you have in hour collection and what are your favorites?

My Frenzy For Fenty

Fenty Beauty by Rihanna launched at the stroke of midnight on Friday, September 8th and is all the rage (see my immediate reaction below)! Fenty Beauty is EVERYWHERE, but does the brand really measure up? There was no way I was willing to let this product sell out before I got my hands on it, so I skipped lunch on Friday and clawed my way through the crowd at Sephora. I even had to go back Saturday, with my children in tow. But I got it, and spent my entire weekend dancing and romancing with this collection to get the deets.

The line features Fenty Beauty by Rihanna: Pro Filt’r Matte Longwear Foundation in forty (40) brown-girl and pale-girl inclusive shades, Gloss Bomb Universal Lip Luminizer, Pro Filt’r Instant Retouch Primer, four (4) Match Stix Trio sets, twenty (20) Match Stix Matte Skinsticks, six (6) Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter, ten (10) Match Stix Shimmeer Shinsticks, Invisimatte Blotting Powder, Invisimatte Blotting Paper and refills, a Full-bodied Foundation Brush, three (3) Portable Brushes, and a Precision Makeup Sponge.  All available exclusively at Sephora.

My undertones are a mix of cool and warm, and I have a hard time finding foundations that match; so hearing Rih-Rih boast about how brown-girl friendly her shade range is definitely piqued my interest. After seeing her on the red carpet for the premier of Fenty in Oscar de la Renta solidified the fact that I would definitely be purchasing a highlight; my girl had glow for days!

The foundation shades did not disappoint, and I was pretty impressed with finding my match on the third swatch. I’ve been wearing it for the past three days, and the formula is beyond light and airy. I purposely packed it on once, and it still felt like I wasn’t wearing any. It’s a buildable, medium coverage, soft matte formula, but not drying. It’s also longwearing and will last through a full days work.

The Match Stix Trios are pre-packaged to take the guess work out of finding your conceal and contour shade. I needed Deep, the darkest set they have, so if you’re any darker than me, you’ll want a customized set. The pigment is great, and they are easy to apply and blend out. The Match Stixs are also light and airy as well.

But girl, what you will need in your collection, hands down, is a KILLAWATT Freestyle Highlighter! I promise you they had to have been in the lab blasting “Shine Bright Like a Diamond” from start to finish while formulating these. Trophy Wife is simply insane. So insane that I honestly can’t think of a better use for it than to perch myself atop a plush chaise, naked, with my entire body dusted in its glittery gold glow, with a red lip and some stilettos, patiently awaiting the mister. However, in all seriousness, you can’t go wrong with any of them, the pigment is intense.

Fenty beauty swiftly earned a spot in my daily use collection. My homegirl (in my head) Rih Rih came through, and I’m anxiously and eagerly anticipating the expansion of this brand! See my three face by Fenty pics below.

Day 1: With a full day planned, I moisturized heavily (because of dry skin) and packed on the product. The foundation looks like skin and the additional moisturizing steps taken in combination with it provided a beautiful and luminous glow.

Day 2: Not as long of a day as day one. I needed to be cute for a couple of hours. This look was created with my normal skin prep routine without any additional hydrating steps, with not as much product.

Day 3: The real functionality test, wearing the product to work with a white shirt! I didn’t use much product this day. But, as you can see, the foundation did last all day. I won’t even call the product you see on my shirt transfer, because it only came off on the areas of the shirt that actually rubbed against my face.

All product pictures are from @fentybeauty

M.I.L.F.

Never in my young adult life did I EVER imagine being sexually empowered and secure enough in my femininity to hit M.I.L.F. status. But here I am, “HEY GIRL!”  And yes, the euphemism may have some of you clutching pearls and judging. But I’ve birthed two children and this body has been through some things; ain’t nothing wrong feeling great about looking good!

 

Motherhood is an experience like no other. I wouldn’t trade it for the world -well, I wouldn’t trade parts of it. Motherhood is the most instinctually selfless process humanly possible. Understand that most days are not pretty, there simply isn’t time for it all.

And because we are women and much is expected and required of us, it’s easy for us to lose anything we’ve ever known about ourselves when we become a mothers. Add marriage and a job to that equation, and you will unknowingly find yourself stretched as thin as ice. Your days start to run together and life passes you by.

The Hubs and I enjoying date night.

Just like the weather, we go through seasons in our lives. It’s our job to learn how to best navigate through life during each of those seasons. Once we learn how to seamlessly adjust to change, things start looking up. I believe it is true that, “with age comes wisdom.” Settling into this crazy, sexy, cool life that I’ve created for myself and some days are a struggle. I’m not too proud to admit that, but when I’m on, I’m on and it’s so refreshing.

P.H.A.T. (Pretty Hot and Tempting) if I do say so myself.

Self-care is all the rage now days and something that I believe in wholeheartedly. It helps me stay focused and at at my best. In today’s society, we allocate the majority of our time to our to-do list leaving little time for rest and relaxation. That can be problematic. As a mother of two, full-time employee, blogger, beauty expert, freelance writer who is married to a high school athletic coach, I have to take “Me-Time” whenever and however I can get it. Some of the ways I sneak in time for self-care are:

Play in makeup – Little girls aren’t the only ones who love to see themselves dolled up. Playing in makeup is good for practicing  applying your favorite looks. It can help you get used to seeing yourself in colors you may normally not wear, and it’s a self-esteem booster.

Have sex -I’m talking about the sex that YOU like. What you like, how you like it and for how long. It’s your world, squirrel! Have the kind of sex that blows your mind and makes you roll over butt-naked, smiling so hard that you have to hide your face in the sheets so your partner doesn’t witness you melting inside.

Working Out -When my schedule allows, I hit the gym and work up a good sweat. Working out helps to relieve stress and tension, and it also helps maintain weight, build muscle and it’s an overall health benefit.

Spa Treatments -A facial, Swedish massage, manicure and pedicure are the ultimate in self-care. But, they can be pricy so on to the next!

Home Spa Treatments -My Toxin-Free facial is relaxing, affordable and will leave your skin feeling silly smooth.

Sitting in silence –I’m not often afforded the opportunity to have the house (or any space) to myself. When those occasions present themselves, I sit in silence. No TV, no radio, and sometimes no cell phone or any other electronic device.

 Go out –Meet your girls, go to brunch, go shopping, go to an empowerment event, go dancing. Do whatever makes your heart smile -and be sure to laugh and take pictures while you’re doing it.

 When I make sure to take time for self-care it shows! My family and friends notice, but most of all, my husband notices. And trust, when I’m top of my game, he reminds me often. After all, he reaps  the benefits  from it!