5 Problems with Social Media

I decided to partake in a 30 Day Writing Challenge for the month of April to assist in getting me in the habit of writing and posting. This will also help me to step out of my writing comfort zone.

Day 1: 5 Problems with Social Media

I remember the ringing static of dial-up internet. I remember word processors and being a teenager with a beeper. Anytime someone wanted to reach me they would have to “Hit me on the hip.” I remember cellular phones being heavy and about 8 inches long. I remember them advancing to colored screens and the “Flip Phone”. I also remember MySpace. All of this sounds so archaic -I’m telling my age!

I have a 7 year old, and when she was a baby I proudly carried my pocket sized digital camera with me everywhere I went. I wanted to capture as many memories of her as I possibly could. I would upload the pictures onto my personal computer and kept flash drives in my purse.

Now we have Smart Phones, and they have put the world at our fingertips. I’m using my phone to type this post and will upload it from my phone as well. Living in a “there’s an app for that” world where there are social media sites that enhance the functionality of other social media sites. It can be a bit much.

1. Social Media has robbed us of physical interaction. I love being able to upload pictures of my children online to share with relatives who don’t live close. I also like being able to share parts of my quirky personality with friends and family. But online interaction has given us an excuse to not make time for one another. We spend all of our time glued to our phones or tablets. We check for social media updates from family and friends, but rarely see each other face to face.

2. Everyone is a celebrity. We are human, and everyone wants to feel important like we are “somebody.” Social media provides that platform. Most of us tend to project our ideal self on social media. There is nothing wrong with that, but we just need to remember that there are people who know who we really are.

3. Social media is expensive. Sure most apps are free, but smartphones are hand held computers and their prices reflect that. Social media crazed individuals now need the best phone on the market. This means a phone upgrade happens every year to year and a half.

4. Oversharing. I don’t need to know what time you woke up, that you worked or are off today, what time you got to work, what you did on break, what you had for lunch, what time you got off, how fast you make it to the daycare to pick your kids up, that you have a headache, you’re tired, your husband gets on your nerves and y’all had a fight, then you got over it and had make up sex, then took a shower and went to bed. I don’t need to see a daily selfie taken in the same space of your same face.

5. Everybody is an expert, has a testimony and a side hustle. I love being encouraged and inspired by people who have made it. If I take advice from 10 different people, I’ll have 15 different examples of how to: find myself, be the best me, discover my passion and lose weight. Social media is a platform for free advertisement and we have begun to chase ours dreams, putting our names out there through that platform. Some people have a strategy and goals in place. While others grasp at straws until something works.

There are positive aspects of social media as well but that isn’t what today’s challenge was for. With the constant advancements in technolog, who knows, we may soon be living like The Jetson’s!

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2015. More Pictures Than Words

I’m sure you’re wondering what happened in 2015? I know I’m not the most consistent with my posts, but more than a year went by and I didn’t make any posts.

I can’t tell you how many long, drawn out, explanation filled posts I’ve started and tossed out.  At this point there is no need for all of that because I can show you better than I can tell you about how 2015 played out for me.

By the end of January we found out that we were expecting!

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We spend the last weekend of February in Broken Bow, Oklahoma at a cabin with close friends and family.

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The weekend getaway to the cabin was fun and much needed. I also took my first pregnancy picture.

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In March we found out our baby was due the end of September. My husband was rooting for a boy, my daughter a girl.

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My daughter and I went on a girls trip to San Antonio with some of our cousins for Spring Break.

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By April I was showing, sleepy all day and awake all night.

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May…
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June…
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July, 30 weeks…
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By August I was huge and miserable. I couldn’t sleep, sit, stand, walk, or drive comfortably.

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I began retaining water in my ankles and lower stomach area, and at 35 weeks I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes.

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In the midst of all my third trimester pregnancy madness and sweltering Texas heat, I had professional pregnancy photos taken.

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I don’t remember much about September. It was hot, miserable and I couldn’t convince my doctor to put me on bed rest. Every week she would tell me that I needed to be up moving around to help with my labor. And every week I wanted to cry.

This picture was taken at work, the day before I went into labor.
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My water broke around 4:30 in the morning during one of my potty breaks. It wasn’t gushing, just a trickle. We got our daughter up, ready, for school and dropped off at daycare before heading to the hospital.

We got checked in and the waiting game began.
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25 hours after checking into the hospital I met my second most awesome blessing!
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October is a blur, I spent those days recovering from labor and getting acclimated to being a new mom, and now mom of two.

November was busy. I’d returned back to work and holiday cheer was all around. I attended the Dallas Margarita Ball, a holiday toy drive charity event, with friends.
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We hosted Christmas dinner at our house and enjoyed spending the day with family.

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2015 was a great year!

Flapper Girl For A Night

My husband and I went to “A Night At The Cottonclub” Harlem Renaissance party a few weeks ago. I was excited about the event because it gave me a reason to dress up and try a new makeup look paying homage to the Roaring 20s!

It didn’t take long to find an outfit. Whenever I’m looking for vintage/time period pieces, I go to Modcloth and Amazon. I ordered two complete outfits, one black and one gray. I wasn’t sure which dress I’d love until I had a chance to actually put them on. So I waited patiently and in the meantime…

I watched a number of YouTube videos, stalked Instagram posts and scoured the internet to find a look that would be perfect for me. Drawing inspiration from the likes of Josephine Baker and Bessie Smith.

I practiced in my makeup for a month and finally created a look that I was proud of.

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The most exciting thing about this look for me was gluing down my eyebrows and drawing on thin ones.

Once my dresses came in I decided to go with the Gray dress. It matched my husband’s suit better and was more flattering on me.

It took almost a full hour to do my makeup but I had a great night and hit the nail on the head with this look.

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Wig, headpiece, pearls, stole, beaded dress, pantyhose and pumps.

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The night was awesome!

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I almost snatched the wig off about 4 times. It was hot under there.

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Relieved to finally be out of the wig. I will definitely where this look again, with full brows next time though.

Getting back to me

I had an awesome and amazing 2013. The year was eye opening for me, I accomplished some goals and learned a lot about myself.  The year ended on a high note and I was happy about that.

But, not long into 2014 things started to downward spiral, things seemed out of control. I don’t know when, exactly, I created this blog. But, you can see I’ve only posted about a vacation I took a couple months ago.

As much as I love to write, I can’t seem to find anything to talk about. Well, things finally seem to be settling down and it’s time for me to be true to myself and just write about what I love….HAIR, FASHION AND MAKEUP! Those things, along with writing, bring me peace of mind and make me happy. It is definitely time to focus more of my energy on me and the things that I enjoy.

STAY TUNED!!!!!

Saying farewell to the DR

My last full day in Punta Cana was spent lounging around, I also had a fabulous spa treatment. We enjoyed the beach,  the pools,  and had one last dinner together.
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Overall,  I truly enjoyed the vacation. It had been a long time since I’ve been able to not really worry about anyone other than myself.  I still worried about my family and halfway through the vacation I found myself thinking “I really wish my husband was here” more than I’ve admitted. I look forward to visiting again, with him.

I had fun, but was anxious about getting home to my family. So, with that said, til next time!

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Peace out!

“Turn Down for what?”

When I’m on vacation I usually like to venture out and see the sights of the land.  There were two things that stopped me from leaving the resort in Punta Cana. First,  I speak no Spanish and the natives spoke no English. Second,  I didn’t have my personal bodyguard (aka my husband) with me. There was also the issue of having no cellular service outside the resort. So, on the third day of the trip,  while my roommates and a few others were out on excursions,  I had quite a relaxing time at the resort.

I enjoyed breakfast with myself at the Italian eatery in the main building.  The table I was seated at had a great view. And I allowed myself to drift off and get caught up in the beautiful scenery. After breakfast I did a little window shopping to get an idea of what souvenirs I’d be getting for my loved ones.

After window shopping, I headed down to the beach and enjoyed the breeze off the water. It was beyond refreshing.  And of course,  had yet another beach photo shoot.

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Fun in sun with Rum Punch!

I always see commercials or movies with the most relaxing looking beach scenes. They usually include; a beach babe, a cocktail,  sunglasses, a beach hat,  lounge chair,  and some sort of entertainment like a book or headphones.  Obviously the thing that I was missing to make my experience as seamless as what I see on film was hired help. I won’t even tell you how many shots it took to get a photo that was usable.

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I could stay here FOREVER!

A few of my travel mates were at the adult only pool, Eden, so I went to meet them there. There wasn’t as much of a breeze at Eden so I was happy about my friend letting me borrow her oversized hat for the day. It provided a good amount of shade. I cooled off in the water for a bit then took in some shade under an umbrella on a lounge chair, when one finally became available. The Eden pool was much more laid back and relaxed (BORING) than we had anticipated and after so many drinks a person HAS to let loose.

Thank God for Central Pool and its daily live DJ! I don’t swim, but enjoy pools like everyone else. The DJ was spinning jam after jam. The dance party was live and the line dancing was fun! We even learned how to say “Turn down for what” in Spanish. I found a great reason to “Turn Down” actually. Once the music was no longer to my liking I headed back to the room for a nap!
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My intentions were to take a quick nap and join the rest of the group within an hour or so. I woke up two and a half hours later and met the group as they were leaving the pool to start getting dressed for dinner.

We decided, the night before, to have dinner at the Steakhouse. Apparently, I missed out on some fun times because only half of the group was able to make it to dinner. The food was ok, as usual, but we had a good time thanks to our waiter. There was also a cow sculpture crashing through the bar window that intrigued us.

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Cow!

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Had to walk out and see the rest of it.

The rest of the crew turned in early. Thanks to my nap, I was able to stay up and out all night long with my friend/roommate. We were introduced to a bitter alcohol called Fernet-Branca, it was horrible. So horrible that I researched immediately after taking my shot, while still sitting at the bar. One of the first things mentioned was that it’s an aquired taste.

We had a good time conversing and shooting the shit with the staff and other vacationers. Before we knew it they had completely broke the bar down and it was closing time. We were the last two to walk out, we literally shut the bar down.

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Turn down for what? !

I had a good day and a great night!

Relax, Relate, We Meet!

The night was long, I woke up bright, early, and sticky from sweat. My roommates were  sleep so I took the opportunity to enjoy the patio and view from our room. To my surprise the patio doors were open. This was a pleasant discovery, because it was so hot that night I thought the air had gone out in our unit. Between the sticky heat and mesquitos I found no comfort outside. So, I took advantage of the soft bedding.

It was great, a dream come true for a working mother. Vacation with the girls and we slept in every day. We stirred around that Friday morning and didn’t actually leave the room until almost noon.

We ate breakfast at the same buffet we dined at the night before. We found out that the dinner options provided true variety but breakfast was pretty universal throughout the resort. We also learned that there was a dress code for entering the food establishments.

After breakfast and on our way to the beach, we stopped off at the travel office to book offsite excursions.
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Even though the humidity was high, once we got to shore the breeze was pleasantly refreshing. The current was strong and the rip tides were at level red but we went out to enjoy the water a bit anyway.
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The most unfortunate part of my first visit to the beach was the fact that I really couldn’t get my mind to settle enough to relax as much as I wanted to. So, I decided to just take in the scenery and enjoy my immediate surroundings.
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We took in some sun for a bit and then decided to have a photo shoot. I’m a little self conscious about sharing pics of myself in swimwear. But, oh well, this is me. “If you see something your mother didn’t have, throw a hat at it!”

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Beach Babes!

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Model, Searching....
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Strike a pose, worry about the shoe later
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Werking that walk
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Sandman dreamin...

As the day progressed the rest of the group slowly trickled in. We decided to meet at the Brazilian Steakhouse themed restaurant on the resort for our meet and greet.

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The gang's all here!

The food was good and the staff was…..entertaining, to say the least.

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He had skills...

After dinner we headed to the main building for drinks and another night of Karaoke.

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We managed to smile in the midst of hunger

And more Mamajuana!!!

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Cheers to VACATION!

The crowd wasn’t as hype as the night before but we managed to turn up in spite of that.

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Hey Ya! "What's cooler than being cool?"

By the end of the night I was beat.

Carried a key…Karaoke

My travel day seemed to take forever, it was wonderful to finally land in Punta Cana.

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We had to sit idle on the runway for maybe 15 minutes. Afterwards we were escorted off the plane and shuttled off to Customs.

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Image the horror that consumed me while standing in line to clear customs, when I realized that I had no cash on hand. Luckily, I’ve traveled enough to know that I had to remain as calm as possible. Becoming frantic in that situation would only have made things worse. But, not having cash actually helped me get through customs with a breeze.  I got to skip past all the lines and was escorted to the Currency Exchange Station.

My next challenge was finding the travel booth with the information for my shuttle ride to the resort. I, again, found myself in a panic. The employees at the airport spoke very little English, add a heavy accent to that and….yeah, I got nothing.

I felt a better when I realized that, even though I don’t speak Spanish, there were people strategically place throughout the air port to ensure we got to the right place.

There were two stops before mine on the shuttle ride to the resort. By the time we got to the Hard Rock I was tired and couldn’t find much excitement. I’m lying, I was excited at the thought of ordering room service, a drink, and laying down for a while.

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The resort was massive and beautiful. My roommates met me in the lobby and took me on a brief tour of the main building. There were bars, clubs, a mini mall, and a variety of eateries to enjoy.

The day of traveling had me pretty beat, my roommates (who arrived about 3 hours before me) were feeling good from cocktails but ready for some rest as well.

We ordered a light meal from room service, took naps, showered and headed out for more drinks and more fun.

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We found ourselves at the Sun (Karaoke) Bar and I was introduced to a drink made with honey, red wine, rum, and herbs. It’s called Mamajuana…. and Mama is one smooth tasting bad girl! After my first three shots I decided to make Mama my drink for the night.

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After my 8th or 10th shot (like seriously, I lost count) the hostess shoved a microphone in my hand and I found myself belting out the lyrics to ‘Someone Like You’, then doubled as the hype man for my fellow karaoke singers.

We had a good time that night!

Vacay, I’m on my way

I was blessed with a last minute invite for 4 fantastic nights and 5 beautiful days in the Dominican Republic (Punta Cana).
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This is my first time traveling without my husband since we’ve been married. I went through a host of emotions the 14 days leading up to the trip.

My day started early. You know it’s early when you can pose for several selfies in the airport restroom, with no interruptions.
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I was afforded the opportunity to sit right next to the ONE baby on board, a 4 month old, she was quite adorable and only had one fall-out, which was prior to take-off.

First stop Charlotte, North Carolina. This trip has made me realize how dependent I am on my husband, especially during travel. But, he makes me this way. Upon landing, at my first stop, I let him know I’d made it and IMMEDIATELY got this text.
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To ease his mind, I simply replied with a photo from the gate.
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As we desended in preparation for landing my stomach got really queasy so I grabbed a (grossly overpriced) bagel sandwich, chips and drink. The total for the meal was $14.36!!

I might be weird, but airports can be quite relaxing for me depending on the circumstances. Especially when headed to the CARIBBEAN!
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The second leg of the trip was nice as well, I took these pictures between naps, believe the pilot said these are the Florida Keys.
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